My love story began out of the blue, when a man I barely knew, Oscar, approached me and told me he’d written me a poem. It was a love poem I later discovered as he read it out-loud to me in a coffee shop. I was so shocked, I stuffed the poem in my purse and ran out of there.
Lucky for me he’s a very patient man because since that day we have grown together in ways that I could have only dreamed of before. He’s romantic, thoughtful, and supportive. He sees me in a way that no one has ever seen me before and loves every bit of my weirdness - you know, the things that makes me ME. We cheer each other to reach new heights in our individual lives and lovingly point out when we’re holding ourselves back. And when we come together and create.. well, it’s pure magic.
It wasn’t always like this though. Before meeting Oscar, I had been in a 14-year marriage that had slowly disintegrated as I went through a long and difficult healing journey (more on that below). My husband at the time tried to support me but couldn’t understand the transformation I was going through in order to heal. One day near the end of our marriage, I asked him “Can you love me for who I am today?”. His answer? “No.” It nearly crushed me.
Fortunately at that point I had already put together the Cadillac of toolboxes and I knew how to heal these deep wounds as they were coming - and wow, were they ever coming. I learned and grew and let go of old, painful hurts along with fresh, new ones, knowing deep within that this was exactly what I needed. Experiencing and releasing the oh, so difficult emotions let me feel better right then and there AND it let me move forward without dragging all that heavy baggage with me.
Now in my new-ish 4-year relationship, I have been able to show up in a totally different way. I have healed so much of my old jazz that I had been carrying since my wee girl days and had been high-jacking my emotions ever since. Not only that, but now I show up in LIFE in a totally different way. I am ME in everything I do, in who I AM - confident, creative, intuitive, and overflowing with self-love.